Shannon is a really remarkable person who is not only very helpful, but also very insightful in a…read morevariety of ways. She's very responsive, informative and I couldn't imagine anyone better at their job. Shannon has a wonderful personality, a great sense of humor and is a delight to have as a resource in the process of meeting someone great.

I spent my time preparing my part of the work, they sent me a meeting invite fast (probably…read moreautomatically), we met, but my questions were not answered -- they wanted me to schedule another paid meeting. Right after the meeting they sent me a link to an article that "women after 40 are getting anxious about finding a partner" -- clearly a manipulation (and I'm 39). That's not how a top 1% single woman in Bay Area should be treated. I'd expect such services to *pay such women* to talk to them.

Skilled Attraction truly lives up to its name as a hidden gem. I worked primarily with Yasmine,…read morethe head matchmaker, though I know she has assistants utilized for coaching programs and other matchmakers for recruiting. I probably have the most unique story of all of Yasmine's clients. I initially reached out to her as she is a fellow Stanford alum. After a brief call, I signed on to her smaller matchmaking program. It was a mini program that allowed me to explore matchmaking without committing to the time and energy for a more intense program. First: I had a remarkable date with a gentleman Yasmine matched me with immediately. He was fit, funny, and handsome. We opted to do an activity date with mini golf followed by wine and small bites at a romantic venue For our second date we went on a picnic. He did the shopping, the cooking, the plating, and treated me like an absolute queen. It is hard to find men like that in our 50's! While we did not hit it off, I knew that dating men though Yasmine's mini service was helping me shift my priorities to take dating more seriously. A year later I signed on to Yasmine's more intensive program. Almost a month after that, I met this handsome, intelligent and very kind man at a get together. It was just a night out with my friends. Just a random night. Somehow it magically landed me my fiance. Yasmine is the one who encouraged me repeatedly to go out, have fun, do this, do that. She encouraged me gently many times to get out of my comfort zone. Was this a match from Yasmine? No. Would I have met him without Yasmine's service? I doubt it. Having access to her services in all its forms was life changing and I am so grateful to her. Many thanks to Yasmine and her team for making my dreams come true.

From day one, Yasmine, the head matchmaker at Skilled Attraction, treated me like a real person,…read morenot a number in a database or another client. She walked me through a full preparation period: a professional photoshoot (which I desperately needed), image consulting so I'd look my best on the photoshoot and on dates, and a deep conversation about my dealbreakers, values, and what I actually wanted in a partner. She even included extra coaching in my package, which helped me even to this day. Every month she found 3-4 genuinely great women -- the kind of matches I was excited for rather than felt obliged to meet. She personally interviewed each one, and I never felt pressured. On the rare occasion I said "no," she simply restarted the search with only a small penalty in relation to other matchmaker fees. She was also honest from the beginning with me that not everybody would say yes to my profile. That was okay too. What impressed me most was how personal the process felt. Yasmine remembered everything: my quirks, my fears, my preferences, even the things I didn't say out loud. She guided me through each step with kindness and honesty. She also diplomatically shared some of my concerns with my upcoming matches so there was transparency on both sides. I could see she deeply cared about both her client and their date equally enjoying the process. I expected this to take a long time or just be a stepping stone on my journey. But then... she found her. The woman who is now my wife. After so many years of being single, I'm married -- something I didn't think was possible for me anymore. Yasmine changed my life in a way I can never repay. There are two new women in my life now. My wife - and now our beautiful daughter. As such - I am and will always be - very thankful. FIVE STARS? TEN STARS

I will talk to a matchmaker this week. They got back to me right away to schedule a phone…read moreconsultation

Working with Xiaoli Mei is a masterclass in cultural intelligence, emotional depth, and genuine…read morehuman connection. Her approach to matchmaking isn't transactional--it's transformational. What impressed me most is how she weaves together psychology, personal coaching, and cultural nuance to help clients not just find love, but understand what love truly means for them. Xiaoli brings a rare combination of empathy, structure, and vision to her work. She listens deeply, coaches with care, and never loses sight of the individual behind the profile. Watching her guide clients toward meaningful, values-aligned relationships--especially across cultures--has been both inspiring and refreshing. In a world of shortcuts, she chooses substance every time.

I am still working with Soniyah and it's been over 5 years now. However now I was able to bring the…read morelove of my life into the work with me. It was all due to the work I did with Soniyah that I was able to open my heart enough for this person to come into my life. Now he and I have been together for over 2 years and love doing the work together. We have grown as a couple and can see loved ones be inspired by our love and the way we show up for each other. It's a beautiful thing to get to work with Soniyah through this process. She meets us right where we are and gives us tools to help us keep growing as individuals and as partners. I brought my boyfriend into the work pretty much as soon as we met (even when everything was a dream) and now we can keep that dream going, years in. If you want to grow in yourself and be open for your love to find you, look NO FURTHER than Finding Bliss!!! Seriously! My boyfriend and I wish every person in the world had a "Soniyah" in their lives!

Writing this is long overdue! Finding Bliss is a love-centric experience, not just coaching, but a…read moreliving embodied experience. Soniyah is a fierce guide through the ups, downs, insides and outs of LOVE. If you want to align with (your) love, you know that it is incredible, and sometimes easy, sometimes wild and chaotic. Soniyah's presence has been impactful through many of these aspects, but especially supportive when love has been gloriously messy. It's her true gift, and a gift to receive her care. Thank you for how you trust love and guide people to more depth, intimacy & alignment with love. Not the path for the faint of heart, but for those who want more heart! I love sending people to you, and especially love hearing them share how they've grown as a result of working with you!! Thank you for saying 'YES' to showing up in this way Soniyah!! ~

Joy is simply a joy. Her smile is ear to ear and her heart is warm beyond measure. I met Joy not…read morehaving any idea who she was other than a validating friend's referral. What I got from my first meeting with Joy was deep listening, curious questioning and a professional match maker from toe to head. While my time knowing Joy as a client has been but 1.5 years, she has introduced me to so many incredible people from her network. With that said, she also introduced me to this spectacular human being who is now my partner in love. She is weird, has SOOOOO many overlapping experiences (Landmark education etc.) and has been instrumental in who I have become today. Joy set up my first and possibly last blind date, it was done with setting the intention i.e. location and logistics. I was to carry a flower/and a book not only as my marker, but also a great below the surface ice breaker. It was awesome, Joy now continues in my life as a friend and an igniter for deeper and sillier experiences that are glass half full and wholesome. Big hugs to you Joy, if you haven't met this human, you should. Warmly, Kyle

There is something about Joy that just makes the world work! I've know her for a decade, and each…read moretime after talking to her, the universe conspires on my behalf, my communication flows easier and more productively, and I'm just filled with joy. ha ha, I didn't mean to pun, but SERIOUSLY! She brings joy to my life. And my love life! Whether you are a couple that wants more from your relationship, or a single that is looking for love, Joy can provide the guidance you need to get you what you want.

Select Date Society is the best of the best in terms of matchmaking companies. I cannot recommend…read morethem highly enough. I ended up in a relationship outside of SDS, but having SDS in my back pocket as an insurance policy of sorts has been very reassuring. If you're looking to get into a serious relationship, look no further. This is the place to go. No more swiping!

From the owner: Select Date Society is a private, highly selective world-class matchmaking firm representing HNW…read morerelationship-minded singles. We work with a limited number of clients at any given time, ensuring a level of discretion, access, and personalized attention that is rarely found in modern dating. Our approach is neither transactional nor algorithm-driven. It is intentional, refined, and deeply personal. Co-Founders Sandra Myers and Amber Lee bring more than five decades of combined experience, earning a reputation as trusted advisors to ultra-high-net-worth individuals seeking meaningful, lasting partnerships. Every client is carefully vetted and privately represented. Our global network is cultivated with precision, allowing us to introduce exceptional individuals aligned in values, lifestyle, and long-term vision. Select Date Society is designed for those who expect the same level of excellence in their personal lives as they do in their professional world. Applications are accepted on a selective basis. If you are ready to pursue a relationship of substance and significance, we welcome your inquiry.

Alex's style and work ethic is definitely something to aspire to as a fellow photographer. He is…read moreable to draw out our rawest and truest selves when we step in front of his lens. All that he asks is to get a glimpse into your life, to hear your own unique perspective on the world. In return, you will receive a reflection of your war wounds, how you have battled your obstacles to obtain your everyday small triumphs. In order to do this effectively, Alex takes every step in the post production process to heart, being conscious of all the meticulous details that go into making your special moment last. Whether it is for corporate or social events Alex's work continues to be of high quality. I was very fortunate to have Alex take my headshot. I'm not a particularly extroverted person so for him to be able to bring out an honest, warm smile means more to me than the image taken after. (Though I will more than likely use that photo until the end of time. Thank you.

Alex took photos at my grandmother's 90th birthday party. He was extremely fun to work with and…read morewent above and beyond what was expected. He was able to catch both posed and candid shots; the photos that we received show his great talent and concentration to detail. Alex's photos are of the highest quality and it speaks volumes of his professionalism and commitment to his craft. Thank you Alex for helping us capture a huge milestone!

While I have only been with IJL for 2 months I have been so happy with the service I have received…read more I especially enjoyed my initial interview with Kelly and how she really took the time to get to know me and what I'm looking for and also what I'm NOT looking for Her advise for me to get off the dating apps and let her do her job enabled me to relax and trust the process. The rapport we built in a short amount of time allowed me to trust that she really had/has my best interest at heart. My matches so far have been well attuned to my personality and interests. I feel grateful for Kelly's thoughtfulness and consideration in setting up my matches. I feel grateful for the opportunity to give feedback and how each date going forward is based on that feedback. Above all the IJL service has offered me the opportunity to connect with other people who are looking for a serious relationship, something the dating apps really fall short on. In conclusion I highly recommend Kelly and the IJL team knowing that soon I'll be in the relationship of my dreams thanks to their hard work and dedication to their craft.

THEY STILL CALL ME AFTER 22 YEARS!…read more I used the service once back in 2003 for one lunch as a freebie trial because a friend was a new rep of theirs and she wanted me to 'just try it out' for them. Since then, I get a call probably once or twice a year saying that they have found 'someone aaaamazing' for me. Every time, I tell them that I am off the market as I have been with the same woman for 15 years - married for 13. I even go so far as to return their voicemails to advise them of such. Still they call. I have come to the humorous conclusion that either they have zero unmarried alpha males in their Bay Area dating pool so they have to reach out to us Texas men or they're trying to become the next Ashley Madison via lunch dates at Red Lobster.

Lauren is an amazing therapist & coach. She is knowledgable, empathetic, and well-versed in a wide…read morearray of practices and disciplines making it especially easy to bring up questions, issues, and experiences in relationships of all stripes. I especially like how Lauren takes a holistic approach: a conversation might begin about a feeling of uncertainty I'm having with someone I'm dating, but lead to a therapeutic exploration of a past experience or a discussion of some unrecognized value or belief. I know that through my interactions with Lauren I'm learning about myself and getting closer to my achieving my goals. I wholeheartedly recommend working with her.

I was a serial dater for most of my life and currently in my third and best marriage! Yay :) In the…read morepast my dedication to commitment was weak. Relationships came easy to me. But deepening in them, creating something meaningful out of them, and creating win-win situations within them was essentially non-existent especially when the pressures of work-life hit. I used to think that relationships were supposed to always be easy going and calm, well, they should be but aren't always, but that doesn't necessarily mean give up. One day I had an "Ah ha" moment, when I realized that the biggest breakdowns come inside of the most committed relationships. Today I know that my most important relationships are my closest ones, and they are what I put my most energy, love, vulnerability, openness, generosity, and self-awareness towards. Lauren has known me and has been a pillar in my life through these times. I'm grateful for her and all that she offers is not only fad relationship work, but it's at the heart of what's going wrong with us. I believe in both personal sessions and group work. She can help facilitate you to a better place, whether you need to find and fix things or to better prepare for the unknown future of relationships she's the one to go to. There's no better investment than in yourself, that's undeniable truth. You don't need to have issues to see Lauren, optimizing life now is just as important. To have such a gentle, special soul like Lauren to guide you through wherever you are in life is one of the greatest things you can do for yourself. Thank you, Lauren! I appreciate you and how you've helped me through the years!

I am so grateful for Courteney and the impact she has had on my life…read more I originally worked with her through matchmaking and dating, but our work together became so much more. At one of the most difficult points in my life, I was faced with a difficult decision about a long term relationship that I was in. Courteney guided me through that process with incredible care. She asked the hard questions, encouraged deep introspection, and when I asked for her perspective, she was honest and direct. Her experience and insight helped me see things I couldn't see clearly on my own and helped me find courage to move forward. I genuinely don't think I would be where I am today without the coaching and internal work I did with Courteney. She has a remarkable ability to sit with you through difficult moments, ask the questions that matter, and help you arrive at important truths about yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for her guidance and for the role she played in helping me get to the life I have today.

In a world where dating has become increasingly difficult, I can't say enough positive things about…read moremy experience working with Courteney. From the very beginning, she took the time to genuinely get to know me--not just what I was looking for in a partner, but who I am as a person, what matters to me, and what I ultimately want out of a relationship. What really sets Courteney apart is that she brings both an incredible personal touch and a wealth of expertise to the process. Her advice and coaching helped me look at dating in a completely different way. She was honest when needed, encouraging when I needed encouragement, and always made me feel like she was truly invested in helping me find the right person rather than simply making a match. The matches themselves were thoughtful and intentional, and I could tell there was genuine consideration behind each introduction. If you're serious about finding a meaningful relationship and want someone who will advocate for you throughout the process, I couldn't recommend Courteney more highly. She's an exceptional matchmaker, an excellent dating coach, and someone who I felt truly cared about me during the whole process. - BAM