If you are keen on dealing with trauma caused by your midwife, you should hire Sherry Hopkins at WRM! I met her in 2019 and she was my midwife for my two home births. I was grateful for my home births and I cared so much about Sherry and did my best to support her out of love, when her family faced a huge tragedy. We became friends, or so I thought.
In Dec. 2023, she told me she received texts from a number that she didn't recognize, from someone who would not identify themselves. She asked me if I was sending the messages. I told her that I was definitely not the one sending them. In Jan. 2024, she told me she'd received an anonymous letter. I again told her that I had nothing to do with it. She clearly didn't believe me and blocked me on social media. She then started texting my husband. She sent him screenshots of her text conversations with unknown numbers. She told my husband that her daughter and students were receiving messages too. In one screenshot, the person texting identified themselves as "Chelsea". She saw this as evidence that the messages were from me. The messages in the screenshots were horrific, and full of obscenities. They were full of spelling and grammatical errors and said things that have never come out of my mouth, yet she was convinced they were from me.
What came next presents a character issue that you may want to consider prior to hiring her. She told my husband I have postpartum depression and need therapy. She expressed sudden faux concern as my "care provider". This was an entire year after her role as my care provider concluded. With no evidence of any of the messages she received being from the actual me, she told my husband that she was going to get her attorney involved, as well as the police and CPS. She said that's because she's a mandated reporter. My husband told her to call the police and figure out who was sending the messages, as it was not me. She repeated her plan after I again explained that I had nothing to do with the messages she was receiving and I asked her to stop contacting us. I then called the police and filed a report to explain what I was being accused of and shared the messages she had been sending to my husband. The following day she called CPS, who had the police reach out to my husband and I, to ask if I wanted to harm myself or my children. I referred to my earlier report and they asked if I knew anything about her mental health status.
Imagine for a moment that the care provider whom you trusted with your life and your children's lives at the time of their births, decides to report you to CPS with false accusations while using their professional role to try to bolster their baseless claim. Unprofessional is one word for it, gross is another.
She then asked if we were at home as she wanted to bring us a "gift." She followed that with a screenshot of texts that included a selfie of herself, giving the middle finger, and a paragraph of words unbecoming of a care provider who cares primarily for women. Finally, she called my husband twice. He didn't answer and she left a voicemail. In her voicemail she identified herself, my husband and me by name and threatened to come over to our house and make me stop sending the messages she was accusing me of sending. Her final words to him were to "get control of your f-ing wife." I had blocked her and just recently realized that she had left me two voicemails a few hours prior to the one she left for my husband. In them, she was mockingly sweet and one said "Hey Chelsea, it's Sherry, your bestie. Why don't you give me a call when you can, I would love to hear from you, just wanna hear your sweet, sweet voice..." I'm glad she didn't show up to my house after threatening to, because my oldest kid loved her and wants to be a midwife someday. I didn't want my child's view of Sherry to be marred. Alas, one of the greatest benefits of hiring a midwife can be one of its greatest drawbacks as well. Your midwife gets to know your whole family. Consider this carefully, before you introduce your family to Sherry.
I've never had someone call me a four-letter word that starts with c, ends with t, and is a vulgar way of referring to a woman. I guess she thinks she called me that. She sent a screenshot of the conversation she thought she was having with me. I don't know who she actually called that, but my guess is that he lives with her. This isn't about his choices. This is about her words and actions, which she is fully responsible for. I have reclaimed my birth stories in my memories, I was the powerful woman who birthed my babies, and my family was at the center of my births. I am grateful for what I learned from her, about humans like her. I do wish that I'd learned in a less painful way. She told me that everyone abandons her when she doesn't meet their expectations. I realize now what a convenient excuse this is. I hope she seeks healing for herself, so she stops hurting those she uses and controls. read more