I am a progressive, non-religious Jew. Proud to be Jewish--culturally and morally, and even ethnically, and of course --cuisine wise (who doesn't love a good lox and cream cheese, or Matzo Ball soup?), but I'm not religious --neither were my parents and I was hoping to have my daughter follow in my footsteps. I was therefore looking for a place that my daughter could learn about being a Jew, and also affirm my/ Progressive Jewish values, but I didn't want to become involved with even a reform temple.
I found exactly what I was looking for in Sholem. Sholem has a Sunday school for kids which does all of the above, plus it provided friends and a community to which we all still relate and which supported my daughter when she went through a couple of rough spots during middle and high school. Her best friend in Sholem is still one of her best friends today.
One of the hardest things about enrolling my daughter in Sholem was committing every Sunday morning to Sholem during the regular school year (Sholem's calendar coincides with the regular school calendar, so summers are "off".) However, I decided that having my daughter grow up to be Jewish and learn about her Jewishness, and affirming our family's Jewish/moral values --which didn't happen anywhere else in her growing up life, was really important to me. And so Sholem became part of our weekly routine. (When my daughter was young, going to Sholem was her favorite activity of the week. By middle school, there was some resistance, but my reaction was always the same: on weekdays, you go to regular school and on Sunday mornings--Sholem, and so it went.
Sholem is also very diverse. As one Sholem friend said, every marriage is an intermarriage, whether it is a marriage between an othodox and conservative or a reform Jew, or an Ashkenazich Jew and an African American, and the kids at Sholem range from Ashkinazim to Mizrahim, from adopted Chinese to African-American and Latino/Jewish. And everyone is welcome and encouraged to participate. Many of our most active members and even officers are the "non-Jewish" partners in those "intermarried" couples.
My daughter still loves Sholem, and credits it with much of her knowledge and outlook on the world, even though she has graduated and become part of a team of Journalists, reporting on Voter Suppression. And what about me? I've met some of my still best friends from the pool of parents who brought their kids to Sholem-- and I still attend Sholem's inspiring annual New Years/Kol Nidre programs as well as Sholem's community/"model" Seder's.
I feel so lucky to have discovered Sholem! If you waded through this far, you should check it out also! Jan G. read more