My wife and I consider our Marriage Encounter weekend one of the least pleasant experiences of our married lives. Over 35 years ago, former friends pressured us until we agreed to attend a Marriage Encounter weekend. They refused to answer our questions about Marriage Encounter; instead, they urged us to "trust them." They backed us into a corner, finally offering to babysit our four children for the weekend. How could we say no? Big mistake! Boring, tedious, monotonous scarcely begin to describe our Marriage Encounter experience. Marriage Encounter billed the weekend as a "crash course" in a technique of couple communication. This artificial technique, called dialogue, involved writing one's feelings in a notebook, then exchanging the notebook with one's spouse, then talking about what each had written. Marriage Encounter expected devotees to continue with this contrived communication method for the remaining years of their marriage. We went at the zenith of the movement in New Jersey, when Marriage Encounter was scraping the bottom of the barrel for "team couples." We know this, because on our weekend the teams were definitely not top notch. Marriage Encounter has been dying a slow death for thirty years. Our relationship with our former friends never recovered. read more