My son has ADHD, Asperger's and Sensory processing disorder. He started at LMS when he was almost 3. Because I know he can be a difficult child, I believed the teacher when she expressed frustration about his behavior and I appreciated her keeping him at the school despite these difficulties. Even tho he was having social issues he was learning rapidly and was above his age level in learning.
My son developed bathroom issues and was often constipated. I discovered (much later) that the school wouldn't keep toilet paper in the bathroom and limited how much the kids could have. The owner blamed him for making a mess in the bathroom, which I didn't understand at the time. He was too young to express this problem, so in response he refused to use the bathroom at school and developed stomach problems. This seems pretty weird to me.
The owner's son has developmental issues which I completely understand and empathize with. However he seemed to think MY son was fair game for harassing. I was told by the owner that MY son was harassing hers and, like I said, because he is difficult I believed her version of the story. Finally, I discovered thru other children's observations that things were not so nice at the school for my kid. The owner's son was being a bully and none of the teacher's were doing anything to stop him. In fact, the owner was calling me to complain about my child misbehaving when it was really her son doing the misdeeds. The owner was seen blaming my son and yelling (yes yelling) at him even when her son caused the problem. She automatically assumed it was my kid and never inquired further as to the cause.
Driving on field trips I observed her son shoving mine from behind hard enough to knock him down or into other kids in line. At the school I observed her son hitting mine, and heard from my son that the owner took him aside and justified her son by claiming previous bullying by my son. Her son was seen stabbing mine with a pencil, tripping him and demolishing his stick and rock creations in the playground, but nothing was done, in fact he was blamed for not getting away from the trouble maker.
Things came to a head when my son was put into an empty room and left there for the entire day because he "wasn't getting his work done". (My son is doing work 2 grades above his age). When I picked him up at the end of the day, the owner never mentioned anything. I waited and waited but she didn't send him out. Finally, when he came, he had his shirt buttoned to the top, and had his shoulders scrunched up. He said he didn't feel good, and it turned out he had a fever. Neither his teacher nor the owner had "noticed" that he wasn't feeling well, even tho he claims to have told his teacher. They denied that he was even sick in order to justify their not paying attention. Telling me that when he is sick he acts like "this" as if I don't know him better than they do or as if the thermometer was lying. Then again, he was in a room alone and no one observed him. He says he put his head down on the table because he felt like going to sleep. No one noticed? He had told me in the past that he let the teacher know that he didn't feel well and she just dismissed him and told him to get back to work.
When I attended a meeting with both the owner and the teacher and expressed my feelings about his being put into a room alone for the day, I got criticized and received a huffy, indignant response. They didn't like my expressing these feelings and were very defensive.
A week before this isolation I had received an email from his teacher saying that my son was keeping up on his work and doing well socially. AFTER this meeting I was informed that my son had "deceived" the teacher and hadn't really been doing his work and was 8 weeks behind on some subjects. ( When I received his work list for the previous week the teacher had put check marks next to each subject completed, how did she NOT know?) I asked if he could do some of his work at home after school because if he wasn't up to date he wasn't going to be allowed to participate in the crafts for that semester. I was told that he wouldn't be allowed to do his work at home and needed to get his work done during the school day. End of conversation.
Let me remind the reader that my son has ADHD, Asperger's and Sensory processing disorder. It is really difficult for him. They were unwilling to cooperate. In addition there were vindictive behaviors from the teacher and owner after our confrontation which were totally unacceptable. So we left. Montessori system is supposed to be individualized learning and able to accommodate children with different abilities. Not this school tho.The teachers are very friendly and tolerant with "easy" children and mostly with girls.
It's not ok to protect a bully especially when it's the owner's child. My son was an easy target due to his disabilities but the owner and teacher should know better. Very disappointing. read more