Inadequate Service
For the divorce proceeding, you will be told by Ronald Heymann and a mediator that you should never go before a judge. Indeed, the mediator will scare you from this option by claiming that going before a judge may take a year and cost up to $20,000. Mind you, my mediation was supposed to have occurred the day before. The mediator was unprofessional enough to mislay paperwork, thereby delaying the meeting one day, and lacked even the minimal decency to apologize for it. Since I am a professor, that would be like me showing up for a class on a day it didn't occur. Of course, I don't do that.
Heymann listened silently to the mediator's prepared speech in a Zoom call. The truth is that neither party desires to go before a judge. So I could have used this as leverage to drive the price down, if only I had been apprised of that option. But I received no such professional advice. I had a compelling story to tell, but didn't get to tell it. This would have saved me a minimum of $11,000. But rather than use my ex-wife and her lawyer's reluctance to go before a judge as a bargaining chip in the negotiation, Heymann sat there and let this exercise in extended mediocrity continue for an hour. He steered me down the path of least resistance.
Heymann listened to the mediator's "appeal to fear" argument in silence. I teach logic and so I know this is as an ad baculum argument, which is designed to frighten you from a rational choice by use of fear. Had I been advised appropriately, I would have said 'They can take this amount or leave it.' And they would likley have taken it rather than (1) wait a year (or more) and (2) risk the chance of getting less than my offer or even nothing.
I learned that Heymann was chummy with both the mediator, to whom he actually promised to steer more business when the meeting was coming to an end. Then he commented about the opposing lawyer's golf game. It dawned on me that his ongoing relationships with these two were more important to him than getting the best deal for me. Let me put that a diferent way. The roughly $7,000 I paid in legal fees was not important enough to him to give me the savvy advice I needed. I rated second place, below the interests of his pals.
What happened with the mediator was expedient, but was neither fair nor just. It was a proceeding that gave me no leverage. When I told him that this was just horse trading and that I didn't get to tell my story he said, "sad but true." That's it. A tepid response worth nothing.
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