Not once, but twice, as I walked down relatively populated roads, I walked in to a confrontation between couples. In both cases, the female was screaming and crying for her partner to get off of her, while the latter only held more tightly and struggled more aggressively. My reaction to both of these impactful encounters was one of rage--why was there such a willful indifference to this public violence?!--as well as one of overwhelming guilt and inadequacy; I am a witness to this aggression, and yet the only thing I can physically do is walk away and stay uninvolved, for my own safety. In my alternate universe, I would rip off my civilian clothes and reveal my superhero suit, pull the man off his sobbing girlfriend, protect myself against his counter attack, and be able to convince him with my magical eloquence that violence against any other being is wrong.
I don't expect the art of jiu jitsu to equip me with these superpowers, but I did walk in to Fairfax Jiu Jitsu hoping to gain at least the confidence and ability to never be physically (or emotionally) controlled in the way I witnessed. What I walked into, however, provided me with so much more. Fairfax Jiu Jitsu is not just a gym one goes to to learn self-defense--it is a community that one is welcomed into to learn a life philosophy that permeates all interactions both on and off the mat. This philosophy is one of patience, humility, passion, persistence, hard work, consistency, mentorship, integrity, and respect. Moreover, this is no coincidence. The Coaches carefully create a culture that transmits dedication, hard-work and team-work. They strive to develop our human potential, and guide us in our journey to expand our physical abilities by surpassing the limits of our capricious minds. They invest in our development not only as martial artists, but as colleagues in on the path towards fulfilment and growth--a path that is not void of obstacles but interprets these obstacles as opportunities and test. At Fairfax Jiu Jitsu, I deepened the understanding that I am in control of my reaction to external stimuli; it is my choice whether to accept challenges with a welcoming smile or with a defeated frown. It is my choice to approach a goal with appreciative patience or with disdainful haste.
Ultimately, while for the past six months I have been learning Jiu Jitsu techniques, positions, submissions, and escapes, these have been permeated with the lessons of patience, humility, growth, acceptance, and resilience. These lessons do not stay on the mat, dear reader. These lessons subsist throughout daily setbacks and trials. The beauty of Fairfax Jit Jitsu is that these lessons are not just passed down from Coach Sam, Coach Mark, Coach Bill, Coach Matt, or Coach Yara. Teammates are not just training partners, they are friends and colleagues who, despite the understanding that, after each roll, one would best the other, are nonetheless selfless in sharing their knowledge, their experience, their approach. As teammates, communication, understanding, openness, and welcoming reign the red mats that teach us humility and respect.
I don't apologize in writing paragraphs of praise for this haven, home, and school. If you already had the patience, I would be writing a whole book on my positive experiences, encounters, lessons, and relationships at Fairfax Jiu Jitsu. If you got nothing else out of my confession of love for the place, understand that I have been driving (through DC traffic, no less!) all the way from Silver Spring, Maryland, in order to reach this home almost daily for six months. That should be proof enough of the physical, emotional, and mental training I undergo every time at Fairfax Jiu Jitsu read more