Some of the nicest people I have ever met belong to this private club that calls itself a "church". My review does not apply to these individuals. Rather, I describe the toxic antics of a different group of people. Example behaviors include: astounding sexism from people who should know better; female aggression and bullying; only-woman-in-the-room syndrome; elitism; and sexual harassment. I cannot think of any legitimate reason for women to sit on my husband's lap or to massage his back during the worship service. Nor can I imagine why someone would find it reasonable to "blow in my ear" during the worship service. More than a few ladies in the congregation regularly called my hubby for bogus three-hour "business meetings" at their homes or in cafes such as Cupz-n-Crepes. I finally gave up on this "church" when I realized it was a one-way relationship. These people were so uninvested that they didn't bother to see me beyond a superficial gender stereotype. Esperanza is a dying organization for obvious reasons. Members blame the pastor, the youth program, the arts program, competition from other churches,....anything and everyone except their own behavior. There is such desperation to save "the club" that many are willing to serve as "flying monkeys" for grandiose narcissists who are expected to attract new sheep......and yes.... I have earned the credentials to make that assessment.....In reflecting on the good and the bad associated with Esperanza.....I would say that overall, my participation here was a huge waste of time and detrimental to my personal life. Participants are valued primarily for their perceived career choices and their perceived social network connections. Not recommended for families. read more
