I saw Dan Neuharth for a little while, and unfortunately, my experience was not very good. Since there's limited information about him online beyond his own website, I wanted to share my personal experience in case it helps others on their path toward healing and self-discovery.
Therapy can be a major emotional, financial, and time investment. After some reflection, I've come to realize that I left my time with Dan feeling worse than when I began.
A subsequent therapist I saw was shocked and concerned by some of the things he said to me. In hindsight, it often felt like the focus was more on him than on helping me.
There were moments in therapy where I felt manipulated -- especially after sharing something vulnerable.
Dan came across as thin-skinned and reactive, and at times I noticed flashes of what felt like intense anger.
On more than one occasion, he spoke very harshly about people he disagreed with or perceived as less intelligent. I didn't fully recognize it at the time, but now I understand just how unsettling this is coming from a therapist who is in a position of power.
Looking back, it struck me that so many of Dan's behaviors seemed reminiscent of the negative traits often associated with Donald Trump, including a lack of emotional attunement, more limited compassion, a certain sense of entitlement, and the rapid onset of anger -- at least in my experience with him.
Additionally, he would imply what words I should or shouldn't use, and was intense about it. He often stonewalled when he disagreed over relatively minor topics or terms. This felt controlling rather than constructive.
Also, he ran late to sessions and was frequently disorganized.
I looked into his educational background and found that his psychology degree appears to have come from a for-profit school with a high acceptance rate. A basic search returned poor reviews of the rigor of education there. I could be wrong, and this alone isn't disqualifying, but it added to my concerns about the level of care I received.
Over time, it started to feel like Dan struggled with internal confusion or unresolved issues that were being projected onto my work. I believe this affected my ability to gain clarity and feel grounded. After therapy with him ended, those effects began to fade -- but it took time.
While I can't speak to Dan's motivations, I've wondered why he chose this profession -- especially with a focus on narcissism -- given the new understanding I have of his conduct.
If you are seeking help with narcissistic abuse or trauma, I would advise being cautious. This is simply my experience, and others may have different ones. But based on what I went through, I believe there are better options out there -- especially now that remote therapy has made high-quality care more accessible.
There are many ethical, helpful therapists out there. Unfortunately, there are also some who can do more harm than good.
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