It's a shame, really. I really WANTED to love this synagogue. After all, I was a member here for 3 years. When I first joined, I had high hopes: I wanted to join the choir, but it turned out that the cantor at the time was a diva and unfriendly, making the choir an unappealing thing to join.
And I had hoped for some young adult programming. Alas, there is none here. And when I attempted to start some, I was met with a brick wall of unhelpfulness.
I wanted the rabbi to bless my new home and help me put up the mezzuzah. When I asked him, he told me he was going on vacation and blew me off. It was embarrassing, humiliating, and to this day, my home remains unblessed.
I wanted to join a committee in order to help contribute more to the synagogue as an active member. My attempts to join were blocked at every juncture. All sorts of weird, vague excuses as to *why* I was being blocked were offered, but none really made any sense or rang true.
When one of the coordinators was looking for volunteers to lead tours of the building, I volunteered. And never heard back. When I checked in, I was told they were still trying to organize things. Hmm. Okay?
So I stopped paying my dues. And it took almost a year for anyone to notice. And only then did anyone want to know whether or not I was happy as a member, ie, when the money stopped coming. But honestly? I think it's probably too late for me. I feel like I wasted 3 years trying to become part of a community that really didn't want to have "my kind" there. I realized I felt like I wasn't welcomed into the Sherith Israel community, and honestly feel a little bitter about that.
This shul is great if you are very hetero-normative, very normal, and have young kids. Then you'll probably get a lot out of your experience at this synagogue.
And if you are older, wealthier, whiter, and donate a lot of money to Sherith Israel, you will be treated very well. They'll probably even try to put you on the board, or at least one of the committees.
But if you're young, don't have kids, pay your dues but can't afford a lot, you probably will be mostly ignored here. Some of us who fell into this demographic connected with each other, and remain friends. So that's nice. At least I got that out of my experience with Sherith Israel. But most of us didn't feel so welcomed here, and most have found other synagogues where they feel more included.
I'm still dangling out there, between shuls. This makes me sad, because I really DO miss attending Friday night services regularly. I really wanted a Jewish community around me. I really did want to contribute something more than money to Sherith Israel. But apparently that wasn't meant to be.
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