I saw Kelsey Snavely nearly a year, much longer than I should have...
During EMDR sessions, Kelsey did not give me time to process. She would always interrupt me while I was still in the EMDR meditative state. Even when I asked her to wait longer to talk, she was impatient & couldn't do it. Eventually, I gave up on EMDR with her & just tried to do talk therapy.
I found it troubling that she would ask me about my finances and want to know how much money I had and how much money my other family members have. I finally told her I felt uncomfortable sharing that information and she backed off a little bit but then a couple sessions later, asked about my money situation again. Very intrusive & inappropriate.
I should've asked about her financial situation.
Probably the biggest issue that I have with Kelsey is that when I told her that I was beginning to forgive people, she said, "I have a real problem with forgiving when [person] did so many evil things!" She rambled on telling me why I shouldn't forgive. She went on to say, "Forgiveness is for THEM (perpetrators), right?" (Obviously, she got it backward because forgiveness is for the victim.) I'm using direct quotes because I haven't forgotten her words. I'm not sure why she would say something contradicting traditional therapy, but it seemed she wanted me to hate the person & see them as evil. This was the antithesis of healing therapy. Early on, she mentioned she's had EMDR & I couldn't help but think she was projecting, allowing her own feelings to cloud the therapy she was supposed to be providing.
Whenever I'd share a memory with her she'd say, "Oooh! He was so EVIL!" She said this regularly. When therapists are supposed to be objective, Kelsey freely shared her personal feelings every single session.
In the end, I felt like maybe Kelsey wanted to help, but her judgmental comments toward me and others, as well as intrusive questions (money), and terrible impatience with EMDR made the experience, as a whole, unpleasant and not at all healing. read more