I would strongly discourage anyone seeking treatment for endometriosis from seeing Dr. Brian Haley. This was one of the most upsetting medical appointments I have ever experienced.
Rather than providing a balanced discussion about my diagnosis and treatment options, Dr. Haley painted an overwhelmingly hopeless picture of my condition. Based on my ultrasound, he repeatedly suggested that my endometriosis had likely destroyed my pelvis. He compared my insides to overcooked spaghetti, leaving me with the impression that everything inside me was severely damaged and likely stuck together before any surgery had even been performed.
Instead of explaining what was known versus what could only be determined during surgery, he spoke as though there was very little healthy tissue left and implied that he would simply try to preserve whatever he could. As a 35-year-old woman who hopes to have children one day, hearing my future discussed in such a hopeless manner was emotionally devastating. Rather than discussing a range of possible findings or outcomes, I left believing my fertility and reproductive organs were essentially beyond repair.
When I asked about my 4.3 cm endometrioma and whether it could rupture, my concerns were dismissed. I was simply told that nothing could be guaranteed and that having surgery in six months, one year, or even two years was essentially all the same. I was given no meaningful explanation of my actual risk, no guidance on warning signs that would require emergency care, and no explanation as to why delaying surgery for years would be appropriate despite my ongoing pain.
To make matters worse, I was referred to a fertility specialist who has been retired for quite some time. I had to discover this on my own after leaving the appointment. That level of inattention made me question the quality of care I was receiving.
My experience with the office staff was equally disappointing. During a phone call while I was trying to get answers about my care, a member of the front desk staff laughed at me. At a time when I was already frightened and overwhelmed, that interaction felt dismissive, insensitive, and completely unprofessional.
Patients facing a complex diagnosis deserve clear communication, compassion, and evidence-based guidance. Instead, I left feeling terrified, hopeless, and completely unsupported. I immediately sought a second opinion because I no longer had confidence in Dr. Haley's judgment, communication, or the care provided by his office. read more
