Our son has been at the Roberts School for over a year now, in two separate classes. We felt very fortunate that a slot opened up, just as we relocated to Menlo Park.
My first impressions were personal, because they related to our context. We had just left a situation with a nanny who was also taking care of her son. Our son's experience was very heavy on play, but the situation was often difficult. We frequently had to establish professional boundaries for the nanny (which should be her job), the expectations on when we could pick up or drop off were completely unreasonable when both parents have demanding careers (like we do), and more than once I found myself wondering when we were going to teach life skills to our son, and if we had different values than the nanny, wondering how we would resolve issues that arose when those values didn't match up very well.
Enter the Roberts School. The director gave us a personal tour of the school, all the while acting very professionally but very down to earth. And in any situation, the personalities of those in charge often set the tone for the entire school or business. This is no exception. The school (to me) seems to be a combination of a somewhat serious approach to pedagogy combined with the caring, nurturing energy of very experienced staff. It's a fine line to walk every day, and I'm still not sure how they pull it off. But what a relief to bring our son into a structured (yet playful) environment that isn't compromised by lack of professionalism! It was immediately clear we were dealing with professionals, even during our son's introductory "play" visit a few days later. I could tell that our son was going to fit in well, but even more importantly, it was clear that if he had trouble adjusting at first, they knew how to deal with that and would help him. I felt confident our son was in multiple pairs of very capable hands.
I won't go into all the detail about how the school operates. They have their act together, and it shows. Were there aspects of what they do that surprised me a bit at first? Sure! They actually identified what skills our son was behind on, developmentally, and at first it felt like pressure to get him "up to speed." However, after the initial perception that "maybe they think we're bad parents" (who hasn't felt that?) it was clear they just have a lot of experience with childhood development.
They know what they are doing.
I'll finish this review with two quick stories, but first I want to say that the school is very responsive to parents, in my experience. A recent review (which, it turns out, is somewhat inaccurate in its depiction about "advanced" vs. "remedial" classes) caused us to be a bit alarmed. We emailed the director with our concerns and she was quite responsive and professional. I very much appreciate their open, honest and *direct* approach to misunderstandings.
For example, for several days early in our son's tenure there, it was very unclear when I picked up our son when "the parent" should step in, and "the teacher" backs off. On one occasion, our son was in the middle of a clean-up task when I picked him up, and the teacher sort of "overrruled" me when I offered to help. It felt like my values were being disrespected. We always pick up together at home. And it just wasn't clear what the routine was. I'm normally happy to let the teacher be in charge until a task is over. I was clearly a bit huffy, but the day was over and I left.
The very next day the teacher brought up what was an obvious conflict, apologized, validated my approach, mentioned that they also work on teamwork, and I felt much better. It's just an example of a disagreement or misunderstanding (and the end of a bit of a bad day on my part) being handled in a direct, professional way. I very much appreciated the approach. I think all parents, when they have a conflict with teaching professionals, should 1) try to have some empathy for the teacher's job and 2) try to be open and direct about resolving the conflict.
That same teacher, many months later, was there with our son (who was the last child there that day) and I walked up to find them both lying on the walkway, looking at the clouds. He had mentioned that it was impossible to see real clouds on a ceiling.
Now, would this be appropriate a half hour earlier, or in the middle of the day? Of course not, but I appreciate that the staff -- when it's appropriate -- will enjoy those unique moments with the children and be casual. It just depends on the time of the day and the moment. To expect a staff charged with the daily operations of a very well-run school to provide personalized attention, every day, as 5 or 6 sets of parents stream in to pick up their child as well, is quite unreasonable. Yet more often than not, we still get details about how his day went.
In short, I highly, highly recommend the Roberts School. read more