I'm athletic, normally 125 lbs, I eat well and exercise regularly. I have no health conditions and…read morethe birth was still a disaster.
The months leading up to my delivery were fine. I felt supported by the midwives. It was the actually delivery that was severely botched. Looking back, isn't that all that matters? I met many of the midwives during Centering and check ups. I felt like they were helpful.
On the night I went into labor, I timed my contractions, called my doula. She said to call the midwife. The midwife that night was someone I had never met. Her name was Jamie. From the second I got on the phone with her, I felt belittled. She said she didn't believe I was in labor and that I should wait. She said the fact that I could talk was a clear sign it was too early. But, she said, if I insisted that I was in labor then she would meet me at the birthing center.
I dilated very early & was instructed by Jamie to push, push, push. On every contraction, push, push push. For something like four hours (until very early AM), I pushed.
My room started to fill up with random people.
I used the ball, I used the blow up peanut, I used the bathtub, I used the stool. In a cycle, one at time, I used each thing. Then, once I'd tried them all, I circled back around and tried them all again. Never resting.
Just pushing.
At some point in the early AM hours, Jamie's shift was over -- so she left!
She simply walked in the room, and said "My shift is over and a new midwife will be here shortly".
Erin, the new midwife showed up. I knew her and I liked her.
However, her guidance simply started over from the exact same beginning place that Jamie had started from. On every contraction, push, push push. For something like four MORE hours.
All over again, I used the ball, I used the blow up peanut, I used the bathtub, I used the stool. One at time, I used each thing then circled back around and tried them all again. Never resting. Just pushing.
Some time the next morning, I said stop. I cannot go on. I'm dying. Call 911.
"You're so close!!" They said, "Keep pushing".
So, several hours later, some time around 1pm, I passed the point of exhaustion and was on the brink of insanity. I slid off the bed, onto the floor, onto my knees screaming. I prayed. I begged God, what do I do? I am dying.
So, I asked the midwife, "Is the baby coming? Is she going to come out any second now?"
"Oh no! No way. Not at all. We don't even see her head." The midwife said. It almost seemed like she thought the question was cute.
Now, I have never given birth before and I've never been at a birth before. My experience is limited. But I knew enough to know, that was not right. That was not right!
There is no reasonable medical professional, midwife or person who would instruct someone to push that hard and that long with ZERO progress.
"Call 911" I demanded.
"We're so close!" The midwife pleaded. "You wanted a natural birth so bad, we're so close. It will be at least an hour before you get any medication at all if you go to the hospital".
"It's not the medication I want, it's my life. I'm done. I can't go on."
I had pushed, in active labor, for 8 hours.
Seven hours after the ambulance came and 2 additional hours of active labor, my healthy, beautiful baby girl was born. The hospital staff was incredible. They were disgusted that these midwives allowed me to push for that long and that hard with little progress.
Turns out, my daughter was posterior. It took the doctor 5 seconds to determine this. How did the midwives miss this? Just keep pushing, they said!
The blood vessels in my entire face were completely blown out. I looked like I had been in a boxing match.
ABC was a complete shitshow. After being at the hospital and receiving the level of professionalism they offered there, this group of midwives felt like a room full of middle school girls playing "let's birth a baby".
By the time I told them to call 911, my birthing room was full of 7+ people all trying to "help".
I'm not saying you need to go to the hospital, but don't go here.
And yes, we still had to pay 100%.