During the very last session with her my partner revealed a horrific secret he'd never shared with me after being together for over twenty years. I made the comment "I can't believe this is true, I've been with him for over twenty years." She looked at me and said in a very hateful tone "You are welcome to leave this relationship any-time you want to, no-one is holding you back as a matter of fact there's the door." I was blown away when she said this to me as if I wasn't entitled to share my feelings/disappointment with my partner's surprise.
I wasn't the one who had just revealed a sick secret to her he was...it was like I was being selfish for not wanting to help him.
She continued telling my partner during the session once he revealed this horrible secret, "we're not here to judge you, we're here to help you (looked to me and said) --- (my name) you and I are going to have to help him deal with this problem, .Help him deal with his problem, it's affected me for the rest of my life, and I guess she expected me to continue sitting there session after session hearing this gross secret. I was floored, it is a problem he needs to deal with on his own, and if he wanted to continue couple's therapy once he was able to at-least function without comments in front of me. I might have been willing to continue therapy with him.
Ms. Peckham wasn't concerned at all about how this would affect me. She was only concerned with how to help him, and how 'WE' were going to help him. I wanted to barf at the news I'd just found out about him, she acted as if it was totally fine.
I'm not sorry for leaving this poor review because when a person (Ms. Peckham) is supposed to be a couple's counsellor, she's supposed to be concerned about how anything one might say will affect the other person in the relationship.
Ms. Peckham isn't qualified to deal with his problem, and seemed more than willing to help him + expected me to stay right there week after week hearing him discuss this horrible secret.
I was no longer interested in making a relationship with him work once finding out he had such a problem. read more