Where do I begin.
First, this is a review for the Child Development Center at Occidental College, a preschool for ages 2-5 on the edge of the campus. Our child started in the first year offered for our child's age group during the pandemic, a time that was fraught with unique challenges affecting all aspects of education. In spite of this, our first year in the "Hungry Caterpillars" (age 2-3) was a very good year. The staff was educated in child development, practiced this very well, and there was outreach from the administration to educate parents on child development. A lot of wonderful families from both the campus and the nearby community attended this school and were part of the good experiences that we had there. (Which is why my rating is two stars rather than one).
At the end of our child's first year, a few staff members raised red flags on our child's speech development. Concerned, we did our due diligence and took our child to two different speech assessments - one with a provider on our insurance, the other not - and went to great time and expense to have our child evaluated. It appeared our child was somewhat behind, but they and our pediatrician felt our child would catch up and was not very behind. We decided to begin speech therapy, and after two months with a wonderful accredited therapist at an esteemed local speech therapy school, our child was developing as normal. The therapist decided to end our sessions as she believed it was no longer necessary, effectively "graduating" our child.
After this graduation, the summer program began. In this program more of the ages are combined into the main yard and it's not as structured of a schedule. We saw our child get a bit lost in the crowd and not receive the same attention as before. In spite of our efforts, the "Busy Bees" teachers of our child's new class (age 3-4) along with the admin, decided that our child was NOT improving enough and disagreed with our speech therapist and pediatrician. Rather, they raised more red flags about our child's challenges with following instructions (eg. sitting in the circle for reading or sharing, staying still for quiet time etc...) and went so far as to the edge of arm chair diagnosing him with autism and claimed they didn't have the capability to accommodate our child. This was delivered with all of the smugness and none of the backing of actual education. Being an admin doesn't suddenly bestow one with a pediatric psychiatry PhD. After a very terse meeting with an underlying note of bullying, we agreed it was best for us to leave the program and find another school.
Regardless of our child's developmental issues, our child's behaviors were not excessively disruptive. My sister is a master kindergarten teacher of two decades and has had ACTUALLY DIAGNOSED autistic children who are extremely violent and disruptive with a high level of need; our child's behavior was no where near that.
Here's where I think the program went wrong:
- OXY CDC is NOT inclusive and openly discriminates against children that may (or may not) have learning disabilities or cognitive differences.
- OXY CDC admin inappropriately diagnosed or raised the red flag on developmentally NORMAL delays, or when they could still fall in the range of normal.
- The MASK MANDATE was an extreme set back for our child's development. Of course there are no formal studies to back this, but anecdotally we believe this was the main reason for our child's delay at the time. I was not opposed to mask wearing, but I think this major social change needed to factor into any red flags raised.
- The administration created an atmosphere of fear among many of the families about all of the day to day rules and any and all perceived behavior issues. Many passive aggressive emails regarding various anonymous "offenders" of these inflexible rules were sent frequently and created unnecessary stress among many families.
Neurodiversity is here to stay as a concept and a term for inclusiveness. Children go through many stages of development and different aspects of their development are on different timelines. Our experience was gut wrenching and stressful as we felt stigmatized as parents of a potentially neurodiverse child, meanwhile having to scramble for another childcare option just before the fall session.
The good news is we are at a much better school for our child, and this is the biggest win from this loss. Although we felt a great loss in the day to day connection with other families and children, we regained that at the new school. Additionally, our new preschool teachers were baffled by the red flags and didn't agree with the OXY CDC assertions over the course of the following year. Our child is growing well, with lots of joy, speech development, and incredible social and emotional development as this new school, so in the end OXY CDC truly was not a good fit for our child.
My advice, tread with caution and read up on emotional regulation! read more