My story is long, but I ask you to bear with me as it is very meaningful that we relay the…read moretransformative, wonderful experience we had at Springhill Funeral Home and Cemetery.
My parents tried to make the best preparations they could for the end of their lives. They set up a trust, had living wills, and pre purchased funeral arrangements. My mother was already suffering from some cognitive decline at this point and my father was not necessarily a meticulous man. The advisor they worked with years ago, (who has long since left the company), may have sold them some options that were superfluous and the not the best fit for their needs. We, my wife, and siblings, were not aware of this until my mother passed on April 29th, 2024. As we began the process of funeral arrangements, we realized that the pre purchased options were not representative of their wishes. Initially, the advisors we met with said we could not amend the options unless we wanted to void the contract and start anew at current prices. Frustrated and angry, we did our best to make the process workable. We were allowed to substitute some options of the same price for more meaningful ones such as a portrait and memorial photo DVD. We voiced our displeasure amid the emotional turmoil of losing the matriarch of our family. The arrangements had three parts, a viewing, cremation, and burial all occurring on different days over several weeks. We had never experienced this process before and had no knowledge of the workings of the funeral industry. We did not know that a body being cremated did not typically get embalmed, nor did we know that the state of Tennessee had regulations regarding the number of people who could be in a room with an un-embalmed body. These surprises only added to our level of frustration.
At this point, Tami Jacobs, (Family Service Advisor), became the catalyst for change. She went to Tara Bessling, (Managing Partner, Operations) and Jeff Friedman, (Assistant Managing Partner, Operations), and explained how unhappy we were and advised them to take action to correct the situation. Heeding her recommendation, they met with my wife and mother-in-law and asked how they could make the situation right. What came next, I can only describe as a genuine outpouring of compassion and commitment to excellence. Already midway through the process of my mother's arrangements, Tara personally delivered to my home after hours, (which is far out of her way), printed programs, memorial candles, and other extras the night before my mother's memorial service at the church my parents attended. Additionally, they loaned us an easel to display my mother's portrait which was beautifully done. The attention to detail and professionalism extended to my mother's burial with Tara adding my father's favorite photo of them as a couple to the lid of the urn vault. She also led the graveside service with reverence, compassion, and dignity.
Tami Jacobs collaborated expertly with us to design exactly the correct wording and symbols for my mother's headstone as well as confirming the placement of the vault holding the cremains. Educating us as we went as to the process of the burial and how one plot could hold three urns and not just two as I had assumed.
To say these ladies are operating at the apex of professionalism would be an understatement. What is unexpected is how warm, caring, and genuinely invested they are in the fulfillment of your loved one's passage from this earth and your well-being and level of satisfaction with the beauty and sanctity of the process.
I wish my story stopped here, but ironically my father passed on May 29th, 2024. One month exactly after my mother. He died in our home without pain. Jeff Friedman and Beth Crawford discreetly arrived and with great care, respect, and compassion escorted his body to the funeral home. We had already spoken with Tara about condensing the process to a single day for my father as opposed to three separate events and were given very generous latitude by the executive management of Springhill to make this happen. Once his cremains returned to the funeral home, we scheduled a service that would allow for friends and family to meet for an hour, have a brief memorial onsite with eulogy, and be followed by the burial. This allowed for everyone to travel one time and attend the entire process. Again, what transpired next far exceeded any expectations we might have had. The ease in which decisions were made and the coordination of services was unparalleled. Easy to navigate DocuSign emails secured all the formal agreements, again a portrait was produced that perfectly captured my father's essence, beautiful expertly designed programs were printed, and a live stream link allowed our extended family across the globe to watch the service either in real time or recorded at their convenience. So many thoughtful details were extended by Tara, Tami, and staff that made t