"Hiring Angie was the best money we ever spent!"…read more
That's a quote from my husband, who just months before I went into labor was wondering why on earth we needed to get a doula anyway, because, well, wasn't that HIS job?
After learning from a friend exactly what a doula is, I knew I wanted to get one. My husband is a wonderful man, but tends to kind of shut down when he doesn't know what to do. Being first time parents, child birth was full of unknowns, and I knew we would need help. He wasn't exactly sold on the idea, but went along with it anyway. When he met Angie during one of our planning visits, he warmed up to her right away. When the visit was over, he actually seemed relieved to have her on our team. He finally got it, that Angie was going to be there to help BOTH of us, not to take his place. He liked that. The pressure was off of him a little, and she would help him know what to do.
My water broke at 9 pm, and at 2 am on my due date I called Angie to let her know we were on the way to the hospital. I felt terrible waking her up, but I could tell it was just part of the job for her. She happily met us there right away. Angie was amazing. She helped us get settled in a little. Most of the labor is one big blur to me, but I remember her being there every time I needed her, whether it was a sip of juice to keep my energy up, a word of encouragement to tell me I was doing a good job, or something from her amazing bag of tricks to help with the discomfort I was feeling, all without me even having to ask. The one memory that is the strongest, over a year later, is one that I feel sums up my experience with Angie so perfectly. I had been moved to the bathroom to labor in the tub when contractions were getting stronger. I was having terrible back labor, and Angie had a heavenly way of applying pressure that made it bearable. I had moved out of the tub and was getting re-situated. I could feel another strong contraction coming, and just sort of blurted out to the room "Where's Angie?" knowing that I needed her help soon. She gently touched my arm and responded "I'm right here." She had been sitting right next to me the whole time. But she is so calm, quiet, and unintrusive that I didn't even know she was there. At the same time, she made me feel safe, and confident in what I was doing. Having someone so experienced with me took away all of the anxiety that was I feeling about childbirth. After many hours of intense back labor, I couldn't take the pain any longer. I ended up getting an epidural so I could continue. There was absolutely zero judgement or pushback from Angie, despite the fact that I went into it saying I didn't want any pain medication. My labor ended up with a c-section after my baby got stuck, and she stayed until the end to make sure he was delivered safely.
Having Angie there was one of the best decisions I ever made. I was a little worried it would be weird to have someone I didn't know very well there for one of life's most intimate moments, but she ended up feeling like an old friend. I can't recommend her highly enough!