I spoke to Pastor George up front about my concerns and bad church experiences in the past that I did not want to occur at this church. I told him that I was just there for church...not judging and not for interrogating not for laying of hands until I got to know folks & then I WOULD DECIDE ....he agreed.
Steven & Mary picked me up for church... He became tyrant when I tried to calmly clarify where he was parked... Steven was angry in a "How dare you ever question that I may have made a mistake...I am NEVER wrong attitude!" (red flag). Then there was the nonstop personal interrogation that lasted through the ride & much of bible study (respect promise broken - red flag).
Didn't see Christianity in their celebration of hula dancing & prayer only indicating that new people R lost and not simply people looking for biblical fellowship... (arrogance causes blocks in ministry). Also, George broke from his normal sermon to laying hands on everyone....I declined as discussed with George. Also, the bible study (Steven) teacher's wife, Mary told me that the males regularly flirt with women that are not their wife as though this was ha! ha! cute (red flag). ...lots of vain talk.
I kindly publicly informed about 30 people... George & his adult choir daughter not to touch me anywhere due to serious physical health issues. Then at the end of the service, out of nowhere a strange man abruptly had his open hand firmly on my lower back while standing approximately 4" with his mouth from my mouth. Ironically bible study was on listening to God and breaking from rigid church traditions. Apparently they do not believe that God corrects them through vulnerable visitors.
Sexually harassed, I kept pulling away from him. Then he moved his hand to caressing my arm that I told everyone in the church that I had an injury to and please don't touch just smile instead. I immediately told the strange man the same. He was still only inches with his mouth from mine way too close.
The bible says don't even look at a woman in lust or you have committed adultry. This person crossed that line to physical contact and personal space invasion... Only OFFER handshake. He saw that my guard was down and he accosted.
When driven back they kept trying to trick me into giving personal info...this is a safety & respect issue. The ride was not worth it... charity service in exchange for harassment...bad deal.
Later that night I called Mary & kindly gave feedback. She immediately attacked me (as usual from the 1st ride) and took a verbal stance indicating that no male at her church would ever degrade a woman. She had no idea who the male even was, at that point.
I then told her that the male was Asst. Pastor Robert. She continued defense, telling me that he was a very Godly man and loving father (many pervs fit her description). She told me that he must have thought that I was super spiritual, so I must not have personal boundaries. She then told me that I must be damaged and need to ask God to "fix me" so that I am comfortable with a strange man sexually harassing me.
She kept rhetorically asking, "Would you feel uncomfortable if he put his hand on your lower back if he did it in front of Jesus?" I immediately referenced the bible's teachings on adultry in the heart.Then she said rhetorically, "Would you feel uncomfortable if Jesus put his hand on your lower back?" .... Then more attacks on me defaming me as "damaged" and made other continuous false accusations to defend ANY male in her church.
No pedistools... I would not let a coworker, a boss, a customer, a stranger on the street, Ect put his hand on my back especially not while conversation approximately 4" with his mouth from. Unfortunately there is a lot of lusting people up & singles matching in churches.
I said, "I have the right to set personal boundaries with males in the church without being discredited as damaged." .... reminded me of a catholic church cover up of sexual abuse...smaller but why let escalate? It is what you do in secret and how you respect ALL that is the 2nd commandment.
If someone had shown no tolerance and a kind correction of the man, I would have continued. Instead "Godly" woman chose to make ungodly unbiblical excuses and continuously attack me..... not biblical & DEFINITELY NOT from the Holy Spirit. Only Satan uses scripture out of context and/ or to mischaracterize the Holy Spirit.
The "Godly" woman actually told me that the Holy Spirit must have told the man to put his hand on my lower back in such a manner while just meeting me. People will treat you like U R stupid when they think that U R vulnerable.
The Holy Spirit DOES NOT instruct against Lord Jesus and Lord Jehovah's teaching on respect, self discipline, and sins of lust. With churches like this you can see why so many worthy people are run out of churches. How can they correct lust in society when they facilitate sexual harassment at church? "No" means "No!" God bless read more