What follows is just my opinion--but it is based on my experience of attending Cindy's parties for a *very* long time. So, take it for what you feel it's worth.
More often than not, Cindy appears to set-up her parties in a way that makes it impossible to connect with someone.
Lights are dimmed to the point that you can barely see someone's face (done to hide the ladies' real ages, maybe?) and her (either arrogant or deaf) DJ plays the music (the same music every week) at ear-bleedingly loud levels--such that it is impossible to have a conversation with someone without being a lip-reader.
These parties used to be much better (a) before 9/11/2001 (when there were more female college students from the PRC to be found locally) and (b) before Cindy became obsessed with having a party every single week (for the purpose of trouncing a former business partner who went into competition with her).
While I personally consider Cindy to be a very nice person herself, it seems more than just coincidental that the dark lighting and the excessive music volume are the *chronic* problems at her parties. It certainly looks intentional to me--and to many others. She's been told about this *way* too many times by way too many people.
Her logic, I presume, is this...
Cindy makes her money by people repeatedly attending her parties. If they actually meet someone special, they won't keep coming back, will they? So, the purpose of the party seems more to bait you and then to get you to buy a membership--through which you will be later given the phone numbers you might not have been able to obtain the night you could barely see or hear.
We go to these parties to potentially meet someone who could become a friend, partner, or hopefully even a spouse. As such, we need to be able to see and be able to have a conversation without impairment. The dancing is only incidental and should not overpower the evening to the point that the purpose of the evening is utterly defeated.
I could discuss other matters, like the type of women who attend and the quality of food, but that's better left for another essay.
Cindy, for now, you need to replace the DJ--or just simply buy several premixed dance CD's and let them play in the BG on your own sound system, loud enough to dance to but not so loud that it ruins your party for everyone (except maybe the DJ's personal friends).
Right now, I'm sad to say, your competition is actually scoring higher. read more
