I reached out to Beth Sholom as I was looking to move my grandmother from a memory care facility in Midlothian that had been neglecting her. Kathy DeStories responded to my inquiry & I went into detail telling her what happened, what I currently pay per month, and what my budget was. She scheduled me for a tour.
When I went into the main location (they have several buildings), the receptionist was not friendly. After signing in/temperature check, I was told where to find Kathy. I went to her office & we talked and talked and talked. Then she showed me the pricing sheet which was way over my budget!!!! Why would you have me drive all this way and then show me something almost $2k over what I'm paying??? Ugh!!!
She apologized and then said she forgot that sometimes they have companion rooms...???? Not sure how she forgot, but ok. That price was closer to what I paid, so she took me for a tour in their Parkside building (memory care unit). It wasn't as updated as I expected especially for what they are charging but anyway. We walked around & there was a resident walking around and he popped Kathy's butt a few times. Ummm, if that happened to MY granny, she's gonna hit him with the uppercut. I promise him that. Anyway, we kept walking around and as we did, some parts of the unit wreaked of urine and feces. They need to clean and keep the residents clean/dry. Come on now!!
We went back to her office & she gave me all the paperwork. I was shocked that before you complete the normal application, you have to complete a financial one which includes giving them copies of your bank statements and whatnot. They are nosier than Social Services. I don't know many people who can financially afford these places but need them to take care of their family member. No matter what a bank account shows, they still have to pay it.
So, I decided to continue looking. I want to make sure she is in a place I can trust to keep her safe and protected as well as clean/dry. I also want her somewhere that doesn't have memory care residents looking like zombies (drugged up) with no kind of fun activities.
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