I am a new mom of a baby girl, and along with two other new moms, we decided to eat lunch at Zimmer No. 1 yesterday. Pretty soon after we sat down, my baby started crying, so I started breastfeeding her. I was surprised when the owner, Stephanie, came over to tell me to cover my breast - and not in a very nice way. There was actually no two-way conversation - she merely told me to cover up and left immediately after that. I was pretty upset about the situation and felt ashamed to breastfeed after this (us moms already face enough battles everyday!) but stayed and ate lunch with my friends. Luckily my friends were unfazed by this and continued to feed their babies (the owner did not tell them to cover up, but I guess she did not see them).
Since I am American and was curious about cultural norms in Germany, I consulted some German friends as well as the Dusseldorf Toddler Playgroup on FB (we are 850+ members strong!), and was happy to receive a lot of support. I also told my husband (he is German) about this incident, and he was surprised to hear that this happened. He called the owner, Stephanie, last night to talk about it. Since my German is at an intermediate level, I also wanted him to call her to make sure I didn't misunderstand her. She confirmed that she told me to cover up and explained to him that she tells ALL breastfeeding moms to cover up (not just me). She told him that her business professional customers have complained because they felt uncomfortable seeing breastfeeding moms. I am guessing that she values her business professional customers highly - maybe more highly than her mom customers. To me, it's sad that if this indeed is a recurring problem, that she hasn't figured out how to seat moms and these "professionals" so that both parties could feel comfortable. It's also sad that she doesn't realize that moms could also be business professionals as well (as I am, not that it should matter). Finally, it's sad that she doesn't realize the spending power of mom.
When my husband suggested that she should post a sign on her door stating that her restaurant is not really breastfeeding friendly, the owner actually told him that perhaps moms with babies should consider if this is the right place for them. Wow. This comment definitely does not sit well with me. Where I come from (the U.S.) her comment would not be taken lightly as it sounds rather discriminatory.
I give this restaurant a one star for the poor customer experience, and I give it a 3 for the food (I had a rather dry chicken burger). I will definitely not come back, and my friends and also many angry members of the Düsseldorf Toddler Playgroup will choose to boycott this restaurant. read more