This temple and some of the monks here left a bitter taste in my mouth.
I attended my friend dad's memorial service at Cherokee Memorial on Sunday 6/23/2024 in Lodi Ca .
My friend financial contributions for 9 monks from the hours of 12:30 pm -3pm.
The monks were 1:45 one hour and 45 minutes late !!! to the service. When they did arrive a few were standing outside smoking cigarettes, one of the son in law of the deceased asked the monks to step inside the service hall. One of the monks replied " we are waiting for the rest of the monk to arrive".
Considering my friend spoke with the head monk weeks prior to her dad's service. He assured her he will take care of the process . To find out the head monk never conveyed the itinerary to Acha (Monks assistant ) or any representative from the temple.
There we all sat waiting for the monks arrival and clearly the Acha and the guess speaker were confused on what to do. The Acha , monk assistant didn't know he was to take part in the service. Minutes later the deceased widow asked for his help . Acha took to the microphone and he apologized to the attendees for the confusion and stated he was not aware he was appointed to assist in the funeral service.
By the time all the Monks arrived , the speakers hastily rushed to packed a 4 hour service session into the remaining 1:30 one hour and thirty minutes.
I over heard a few of the monks discussing amongst themselves " the service they went to in the morning prior , the other family did not have enough money to pay them " . this concludes the reasons for their delay to my friend dad's funeral . This clearly explains these monks at this temple has no compassion to serve their community, their motifs is transactional and greed $$.
It is very unprofessional and disrespectful to the bereaved families and friends for what the Monks did, I have no respect .
I also went to the Sunday evening monks chanting and Monday morning chanting service as well in the temple.
This clearly defines what I have been thinking and the same sentiment with some of my family and friends discussion on our way here .
Again at the temple on Sunday some of the monks were late and one sat there with his sunglasses on with a disgruntled demeanor because he didn't want to participate in the chanting . ( we noticed the disgruntled monk sat there the entire session with out uttering a word ) .
When it came time to collect the monetary donations , one of the monk announced how much he suggested for us to "donate $100 per monk or $50 per monk is good ".
When a lady walked up to place her offering in the collection tray . That same monk made a comment , " I thought it was $100 but it's only $10 bill she is donating ". Then he followed by I was just kidding remarks .
Well, not all of us found it amusing to hear him make that type of statement and to belittle that lady .
Some of us left the chanting hall after that remarks to sit outside . We came to the same conclusion. Whether the lady donated a penny or any amount $$ the monk should have gratuitously accepted what anyone can contribute.
The Monks actions alone show us they do not have the empathetic qualities made for serving the community, their existence here is income based only . read more