My family was publicly humiliated by the church. My family was thrown out a week or so before the…read moreChristmas performance (our kids were in the play). Greg Floyd informed the church staff that if my family wasn't told to leave the church, he was quitting. Mike Damron, a local family practice doctor and the head deacon lead the meeting of staff and deacons (the church doesn't believe in having elders, I didn't really understand the consequences of this until they were throwing us out, but it basically gives unquestionable authority to the pastors).
When I was asking why no one came to me privately like Matthew 18, or even what my charges were, they had no exact point or even a charge against me, or my family. Mike Damron informed me the ruling was incontestable and even if the head pastor had an open affair on his wife even that would be beyond contestation... I wasn't aware this was the policy of the church. Mind you, I still have been given no actual explanation of wrong doing. No charge was ever brought against me by the church, we got left that night with nothing but the unexplainable judgment they laid upon us. They would later go to individuals I was selling my house too and tell them to not do dealings with me. Like I'm a criminal.
Greg Floyd went to my wife's friends and told them not to contact her or my kids, to separate from us completely. Mind you, it had been about a year since my wife had recovered from cancer, against all odds and when a half dozen doctors said she would die due to the cancer. So that next Christmas, Mike Damron, Greg Floyd, & Jeremy Wallace decided that my wife and I believing God healed us was unacceptable. We were very clear, the Lord healed us! The conversation was recorded by the church and subsequently they refused to share it. My advice, before you join this church ask for that recording and judge for yourself the character of these men and see if it's a place you'd like to worship God.
This situation was religious persecution, plain and simple. Even if they do not believe the Lord healed my wife, someone should have come to us in private to talk, before 15 men who I have never even had a discussion with threw my family out and publicly called us unbelievers. Even then, why go to my wife's friends and tell them to not speak to her. It's unloving, cruel, and shows the hearts of the men who did it.
For the sake of transparency, I will share a fact that I have always questioned if it was a part of the reason why. There is a well known deacon who made a comment about my wife's backside (my wife is a very beautiful woman, so I do understand to a degree). My wife came home and told me and we avoided the gentlemen and blocked him from socials. we shared this with one close set of friends to seek advice and then never mentioned it again, but when they threw us out I always suspected this to be a joint cause.
It just comes down to weak men. It's why the church is set up without elders, so there can never be a challenge to the pastoral staff (mind you I didn't even challenge anyone, this is all just wisdom learned in reflection). So when you are setup in an unbiblical fashion you get unbiblical results. I believe the judgment brought upon my family was a result of an inability to perform Matthew 18 with integrity, because frankly it's difficult, it's easy to throw a family out no questions asked and hush it up by destroying the wife's relationships & attacking me financially with gossip and slander.
I have refrained from writing this for about a year or so, but I felt it time today. I am past all forms of anger about it and don't mean anyone any wrong, I just thought I would warn the next guy with this review. Life is hard, people make mistakes and they don't always judge right, I don't know where these men are in their lives now, and I wish them the best, but this is our testimony at victory, it built us into stronger Christians, as persecution does.