Autistic Parents and Parental Rights! First! Mary is absolutely amazing assistant as well as Drs, they are gentle in their approach, understanding and presented amazing patience.
However; I'm extremely distraught and so disappointed over this last appointment 8/2/23 645 am. scheduled X-ray I advised the dental assistant Ronnel during a call of his ASD sensory difficulties, fears and expressed concerns of any and all medical services, due to traumatic events, hospital stays, NG tubes, IVs, ear probes, swabs, needles and so much more! it's an absolute panic fear. He's petrified of anything; nail clippers, hair cuts, Loud toilets, sounds, the list is endless.Upon arrival he happily followed Previously we were taken to the special room for special needs, instead we were asked to sit in a cubby where most would get X-rays, after a few minutes he quickly reverted to anxiety and feared he was getting and NG tube, or shots at which time Mary walked by and recognized him & advised he will need to go to the special room. We retreated to the special room where for a bit we were all working towards getting him to bite the film for X-ray the first 2 took a few minutes, for him to see it was ok to bite the film. Once he saw the "sanitized" bag with the small clamp that holds the film for side pictures he went into super anxious mode and Exclaimed NO don't pull my teeth out, all of his sensory issues were in full display in which the attempts to explain went for a while. Mary the one assistant retrieved one so I can show him it doesn't hurt, it took multiple tries and constant effort to get him to put the entire tool in his mouth he was screaming, crying shaking and begin the meltdown at which time Ronnell said he needed to be held down forehead back so she can insert this medical object down in the side of his mouth, I informed her initially I really didn't want to do that, he will do it once he gets calm and comfortable with putting it his mouth, her responses became, aggressive and aggravated that I didn't want to restrain him, she began a series of over talking my parental rights! I attempted once in placing him my lap to lay him back and instantly he went into full panic, holding his mouth, kicking, screaming and as expected he did exactly what I told them he would do, I was getting frustrated and exclaimed I'm not going to do it this way, we just need to take time and let him do it, in which she responds with another tone that came across that My parental rights didn't matter, over talking and demanding. I was refusing adamantly!
She did not respond well to my personal parenting by choosing not to restrain him.
She was clearly not respective to my request to allow him to calm down and try again, he was very close to being successful with the help of Mary the other assistant. The situation continued to get more complicated as Ronelle continued her power struggle without regard to my grandsons needs and very clearly traumatized. Her continued attempts to force this caused complete chaos and I advised her I wanted someone else to assist, she responded with there "ain't" nobody's else, this became a issue, as I no longer wanted to keep hearing how SHE wanted to restrain him or threatening to remove him from procedure list, and I no longer wanted to hear her forceable commands and condescending approach and at this point unprofessional actions. Admittedly I was now intolerant of her and expressed I no longer wanted to talk or listen to what she was advising. I asked for the Dr or someone else to come in and assist, she left the room and Mary stayed and knelt down on the floor helped him breath with a calm voice and little extra TLC she convinced him to complete this process got X-rays on both sides of his mouth. After a few moments Ronelle came back to room.To which myself and Mary responded with we got the X-rays sidenote in a gentle format! Mary left the room which left Ronnell in room and she claimed! I'm taking him off the list!!!!!! For his procedure!!
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