It took me a while to process my "reiki" experience with Crystal here a while ago, but after much time to reflect as well as opening up with trusted people about how it went, I feel called to share. The "healing" experience with her here has left me feeling violated.
Cons:
When we sat down, she asked about
what was going on so I started to share a bit of what happened to me (domestic violence), & she immediately inserted herself over me. She said she related to me and that she learned from her experiences that "we attract" everything that happens to us "to heal." This made me feel like vomiting as way too many people who call themselves healers dothis nowadays, it's called spiritual bypassing & it's not much different than how religion uses its belief systems to victim blame & gaslight under the guise of "healing." Human beings in this world are NOT SA-ed, abused, etc. because they "attract" the abuse and any professional counselor, reiki specialist, etc. anyone who is educated & trauma-informed on these topics knows that is flat out inappropriate. The amount of damage & further traumatizing that can do to victims/survivors of abuse is serious. I'm
just glad I was already at the point in my journey where I was aware of this when I came in, because if I wasn't that could have actually altered my vulnerable brain causing psychological damage.
I came in for a reiki session, not to have her personal views projected onto me or victim blamed as a client she barely knows for why or how things happened to me in my own life, but unfortunately that was my lived experience with her here.
Anytime I tried to steer the conversation away from this and back toward just sharing what happened to me, she'd continue to insert her perspectives before I was even done so I eventually I gave up.
Once she started the reiki I felt a bit more at peace knowing that conversation was over, but I then became even more uncomfortable. I didn't know she was going to touch parts of my body without my consent. At one point she tilted my neck back - which I'd shared earlier was a main point of PTSD as it had been assaulted by my abuser - and then she literally put her lips on my neck & sharply exhaled. I understand everybody has different methods that they use, but that was such an inappropriate thing to do to somebody without asking, especially in a setting supposed to be focused around healing. Looking back it's really weird how she felt entitled to do that to someone without asking. My boundaries & personal consent towards my own body were simply not prioritized or respected. I don't like how I was never asked if I was
comfortable with that. It was like she
was just doing what she wanted without considering what I as a client felt safe having done to me.
She also told me she is a "warrior
goddess" a "shaman" who was Native
American in a past life & believes she's
here to either trigger or awaken people, which to me made it clear to me that there wasn't a sense of accountability as a professional.
Pros:
I'm able to move forward from this
experience with the reinforced concept
of trusting my intuition. I felt the vibes
were unhealthily off as soon as we
started & looking back that voice in my
gut that told me to leave was accurate
but I didn't really know until things were already happening to me, as by then I felt frozen and dissociated. What happened to me here was not ok period.
Overall she's really into her craft which I can respect, but unfortunately Crystal
crossed too many lines for me & that
was inappropriate. Personally I wouldn't recommend coming here for energy work. It's up to an individual who they choose to work with & my sole intention with this review is to help prospective clients potentially stay safe. read more