I've attended this synagogue in the past and will never attend it again. I was going through a very challenging time in my life and in a vulnerable position. Basically, I lost my job of 15 years, working in a small family software business and went through a period of depression. I've been getting my self back on my feet and I am planning on moving back to Seattle to look for work in the software field and was eager to find a Jewish community to join, both for spiritual, social and possibly a means to network in my career.
I called Rabbi Meyers to talk with him about attending the synagogue and explained my situation. He became very abusive and insulting to me on the phone. In our discussion he starting belittling and denigrating me, telling me, basically, that I have the behavioral maturity of a child. He continually started humiliating me and basically calling me an overgrown child. In the discussion he even asked my age and when I am told him I was around 40, he then said he couldn't believe I would be that old, as I am more like a child. I felt very violated and insulted by his attacks, which were both unprofessional and demeaning.
Our discussion became even more heated and his abuse became more virulent as I proceeded to talk to him. Despite having no credentials as a psychiatrist, he decided to start intensely psychoanalyzing me, lashing out on me, and basically telling me through his dialogue I am too mentally ill to survive at his synagogue. He assured me that nobody in his synagogue would like me, be able to relate to me or tolerate me because, as he was basically implying through his discourse, "I am too mentally unfit" to attend and survive in a Jewish community. Basically, Rabbi Meyers, in our short phone call, let me know in addition to being an overgrown child, that I am too mentally ill to be a Jew, attend synagogue, pray and attend services. This man basically was attempting to deny me my First Amendment rights with the Freedom to Worship and try to damage my integrity and crush my spirit as both a Jew and human being. Any rabbi or person who will tell a person that they cannot survive in a synagogue and make false accusations about mental illness is not worthy to be a Rabbi, or even a member of a Jewish community, in my opinion. This is what we call in Judaism, "Lashon Hara".
He has no credentials as a psychiatrist, yet liberally, in a very rude, demeaning and unprofessional manner will lash out a fellow Jew telling him that he is a big child and making a false medical diagnoses (which could possibly be illegal as a religious clergyman to make) that I am too "Mentally Unfit" to attend a synagogue. Yes,I called Rabbi Meyers in a hard time and trusted him with my security and came to him as a spiritual teacher and he decided to violate his position as a rabbi and use it to verbally and emotionally attack me. I am a strong person and can take abuse, but I worry for any other people who are vulnerable, as I was, who may end up consulting Rabbi Meyers for help one day and that he may end up hurting these people and causing worse emotional distress than he has caused to me.
I am aghast and have suffered from my interaction with Rabbi Meyers and will never attend Ezra Bessaroth again. Four years ago I stayed at Rabbi Meyer's house for a couple Shabbat stays and it is in that time, where I believe he culminated resentment against me. I do not know why he would be abusive to a potential synagogue member. However, I cannot continue to speculate. It is a crying shame that I can not attend one of the two beautiful Sefardic synagogues in Seattle, due to the rogue actions of the rabbi, who has only been with this synagogue for 5 years.
Ezra Bessaroth is a beautiful kehillot/shul and they have very interesting Sefardic services and a great Chazzan from Israel, whose voice I admire. Indeed, I am passionate about Sefardic minhag (culture/customs) and would love to embrace the very community that are the descendants of the great Rambam. However, I think due to the volatile and abusive nature of the rabbi, I would advise other people to consider Bikur Cholim if they desire a genuine Sefardic experience. Because of my episode with the Rabbi, I, regretfully, will probably avoid attending any Sefardic synagogue in Seattle. read more