IF I COULD GIVE A 0 I WOULD!
Last Wednesday (Feb 8th) we had funeral services for my father, Christopher Andrews, at "Bring Funeral Home Inc" , in Tucson AZ. I do not even know where to start because the whole experience was DISRESPECTFUL, DISTASTEFUL and absolutely ABHORRENT. For starters the communication was lower than poor. The man who was supposed to hold the service just went on vacation before the funeral and no one let my mom know. The guy who filled in was AWFUL. The service was to begin at 9.45am. At 9.30 he seemed annoyed that we were still waiting on my sister and began to rush us. When she arrived BEFORE 9.45 and my mom hugged her and her kids he told them "You can hug later" In the most annoyed tone ever....excuse me? Also prior to the service the man holding the service told my mom he would have holy water and would ask us to step up and put holy water on my dad's head. She told him ABSOLUTELY not. They were not Catholic and to expect anyone wanting to go up and touch a dead body, of someone you loved so much....it is a bit much. HOWEVER....he did it ANYWAYS. Not only did he overstep boundaries and did not honor my mom's request...but he was RUDE about it. Literally SHAMING us for not wanting to. "Oh, no one wants to come up? REALLY?" Everyone was SO UNCOMFORTABLE and DISTRESSED. It was an open casket, I was SO UPSET they shaved my dad's mustache after they were told NOT TO. There was NO REASON to do that. It feels like they VIOLATED my dad, disrespected his body and who he was as a person. NO ONE knows him without a mustache. He has had one ever since he could grow one. They took it off, WITHOUT CONSENT. The makeup job was AWFUL. My heart fell to pieces seeing they shaved his mustache even after being told NOT TO. Even if there was some weird reason they HAD TO shave it. No one told us, no one was prepared for what they saw when they walked into that funeral home. No one called my mom and said "hey we had to shave him for x,y,z reason, just wanted to let you know so you can emotionally prepare for what he is going to look like." NO COMPASSION , NO CARE. Then we drove an hour to Sierra Vista to the cemetery , where the clergy AGAIN tried to push everyone to bless my dad with holy water and then when no one wanted to (BECAUSE WE SAID WE DIDN'T) Again he SHAMED US "I have so much holy water left, really NO ONE wants to come up, REALLY??" and then made a face like WE were some awful monsters for not wanting to. He rolled his eyes. There are many moments I felt like walking out and leaving...there were moments I wanted to SCREAM at him. But it felt like HE KNEW no one would make a scene, so he could handle the service how HE deemed fit and took advantage of our mourning and grieving. My dad was a veteran and they treated him like a cash grab. At the cemetery in Sierra Vista they wouldn't let anyone go to the actual burial site. They also told us if anyone was just a little late they would be turned away and not let in. It caused so much emotional distress that after the service at the cemetery, I got sick in the bathroom. I know complaining will not bring my dad back. He deserved better, he deserved the best. He was a human being and was treated like he was not an actual person. We were treated like we weren't real people with REAL feelings... The thought of ANY family having to go through what we all witnessed last Wednesday makes my stomach turn. When you read their yelp reviews and google reviews it seems like they often treat people like garbage. This is not what my mom paid for. She did not pay all that money to be put in more pain and to be shamed. She did not pay all that money for them to violate my dads body like that. They do not deserve to run a business like that. They have ZERO compassion. I have had horrible nightmares since then. My children have had terrible nightmares. It may sound silly to one to be so upset over a mustache. But it HAUNTS me. My dad would of NEVER wanted that. He would be SO UPSET. I am going to write to whomever I have to to get the exposure deserved to this AWFUL funeral home. I don't even know if writing THIS will do anything. But SOMEONE has to do SOMETHING or give the money back.
To the owner.... Do not even TRY to respond on my review acting like you cared. If you DID, you would of honored our wishes. If you CARED your staff would of not SHAMED US or shaved my dad's mustache off WITHOUT CONSENT...I don't want EXCUSES. I want you to make it right...Don't even try to put ANY blame on US and that you feel "oh so sorry" I don't want to hear it... SPARE ME YOUR SEMANTICS. Your company has caused all of us emotional distress and your wet blanket sorry is disingenuous and and I don't believe a word coming from you. Reading all the other reviews only solidifies my opinion. I WILL be contacting ANYONE I can about this so NO ONE has to ever be shamed by you again. DISGRACEFUL, DISRESPECTFUL, CRUEL and DISGUSTING is all I can say.
-Jennifer Andrews read more